The Random Bibliophile

by Renee Alexis

Renee Alexis
20-something Filipina, an introvert who loves young adult fiction, brush pens, Taylor Swift, and BTS. Coffee runs in my bloodstream.


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How I Deal with Stress and Anxiety

There are times when life gets the better of me, leaving me sulking in the corner afterward. It is never easy to deal with problems but then you just have to because it is the only way for you to survive. Things might get too intense at times. Life isn't a bed of roses so arising problems will always be the norm.

I am someone who does not get stressed easily but I do get anxious a lot, and it has happened so many times already I lost count of it. This year has been the toughest yet. I remember having snippets of breakdowns in the last few months due to insurmountable things that just happen to get the best of me. One thing was that I finally figured out that I am not marked up for engineering and that I wanted to walk in a different path and that I have no idea how to do the shift. Then there’s this company drama that has happened that I’m trying to get out of my mind for some time already. Another is about family problems I won't go into detail here to keep the privacy. It's a nightmare. I cried for many nights right before I doze off to sleep, thinking that I am in for a lot of mess because there will be so much change and I think I can't handle that as of the moment. I am so caught up with what I have going on around me and pivoting towards something new made me scared and I started doubting myself. It's the so-called quarter-life crisis everyone is raving about and I'm not even 25 years old yet!

I did a lot of reflection in times of difficulty. There are times that I will just stop what I am doing and think about the things that are presently going on about. I figured that I shouldn't let stress and negativity get to me because that would mean that I will be admitting defeat and I don't want to do that. While I am alive, I promised to keep fighting, and attaining complete bliss has become my life's mission. Stress and anxiety may come to me once in a while, and I may give them the time of day to fill me up, but I will make it a point that I will rise up above them. I won't be some girl who chose to be flooded under all the pressure. I will be the girl who experienced them, conquered them, and rose above them afterward.

So without further ado, here's how I deal with stress and anxiety when they come knocking at my door.

When life gives you lemons, what do you do with them?

  1. Take a moment to breathe and assess the situation.
    There's no need to get stressed out immediately, at least that's what I use to say to myself. When the situation is dire, I can always take a breather. So I stop what I'm doing, take a deep breath, and relax my mind as much as I can. 
  2. Analyze and think about possible solutions.
    When I have finally given myself a break, it's time to come up with a plan on how to handle this certain thing that is bothering me. This is when overthinking will wholly consume me and then I'd be upset and start crying so then I turn to number 3. 
  3. Pray and ask God for guidance and strength.
    I turn to God at all times. He has been always there for me, whether it be in the good times or the bad times. When things become unbearable and it seems that I can't find someone to turn to, there is always God who is always ready to listen to my every word, my every thought, my every hurt.
  4. Choose to see the silver lining.
    In every bad thing that has happened, there will always be a good thing with it, too. It's up to a person to pick which side to see. Happiness is a choice; either you're the kind who sees a half-filled cup as half-full or half-empty, I choose to see it half-full. 
  5. Learn to love your flaws and embrace them.
    Nobody is perfect. I am not perfect. The sooner I understand that the better I go on through life. It is normal to mess up and have mistakes, don't let these things get the better of you. I choose to stand back up after I fall. The world keeps on revolving and it does not wait for anyone so it's best to move forward with it rather than being left behind in the past. 
  6. Accept that things will not always go your way.
    As what Disney's Frozen had immortalized and had every kid memorized - Let it go. There is no better explanation for it than this. 
  7. Wait and be patient. Things won't change at a moment's notice.
    Overcoming the bad things (especially anxiety) does not happen overnight. I learned how to be patient slowly, day by day, and I think everybody should, too. 
Dealing with stress and anxiety differs from one person to the other. What works for me may not work for you but I just chose to share these tips in hopes that I can, somehow, help someone out there who has been having a hard time. Don't let stress and anxiety consume you any longer. I know it's hard and advice like these are easier said than done. But I am speaking from experience, and if I can overcome them, you can, too. You just have to put your mind to it and work hard for a better you. ;)


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