The Random Bibliophile

by Renee Alexis

Renee Alexis
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“I feel like I don’t deserve compliments”

“I feel like I don’t deserve compliments” | Renee Alexis


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I think it’s a valid feeling that each of us has experienced this kind of dilemma at least once in our lives. We feel like the good things that people say to us are not genuine. Not genuine in the sense that we feel like we don’t deserve such words of praise. I don’t want to speak for everyone but this thought was originally from a colleague. And I wanted to share what my thoughts are about it.


Hello, dear listener with an s. Listeners. It’s been 2 weeks since the last episode and as much as I wanted to push myself to make and upload content on a weekly basis, my creative juices deplete once in a while. June has been hectic and I have never been more grateful because it’s such a blessing to work in the comforts of my home. I may complain every now and then but I like where I am now. I like my setup, I like my job, and I like my boss. It’s not perfect but it gives me peace. Anyway, enough about me. I’m here to share my thoughts about this certain feeling whenever we are handed compliments that we don’t think we deserve. I thought this was just me but as I said, the title of this episode actually came from another person.

What prompted me to talk about this topic was when our company had an online event. In that event, there was a segment wherein each of the new hires was supposed to introduce themselves to the team and to spice it up, we were also asked to share the best compliment we’ve received. I got into thinking about what I should say. I don’t receive a lot of compliments and it took me a while to formulate something.

I was listening to the others speak and there was one who said that it’s difficult for him to share a compliment because most of the time he doesn’t mind these so-called compliments because he feels like he doesn’t deserve them. One also said that he doesn’t view compliments as they are because minding them might make him overconfident. A lot of people were saying that they have a hard time taking in compliments because they felt like they don’t deserve high praises because they are just doing their best.

Hearing these thoughts made me think about how hard we can be on ourselves and it made me think about how I treat myself as well. Am I having a hard time, too, because I don’t take compliments myself? I mean, how hard could it be to think of something good that someone said to me? Time was running out and I had to think of something to share. I scanned through the hidden files in the compartments of my brain and finally remembered some good things that I got from online friends.

Truthfully, if it wasn’t for this podcast, I wouldn’t be able to share anything. But because I have wonderful listeners, I received the best compliment that I could think of. And sharing that piece of good words that somebody else said about me made me feel good about myself. It made me see myself from a third person’s point of view and maybe that was how other people see me.

For a moment, it was a great thing because who wouldn’t like feeling good about themselves. Maybe sometimes, we just have to take things by themselves. By not overthinking and dissecting things that aren’t there in the first place and just taking others’ words as they are.

Maybe sometimes, we do deserve compliments genuinely said by others to us. And while some had good points in saying that not minding compliments keeps them grounded, it’s also a good reminder that once in a while, we can indulge in them just to build our self-esteem.


And those are my pieces of thought. It’s always a wonderful journey to go deeper with things that have been said and moments like this make me appreciate life more.

Thanks for listening to this week’s pod episode. I hope I got you thinking about things and I hope you enjoyed listening to it. If you have any thoughts, opinions and violent reactions about today’s episode, you can message me and interact with me on Instagram @thesinglemillennialpodcast. Have a wonderful day everyone, stay healthy, wealthy, and happy. See you on my next one, byee~

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